Saturday, 15 April 2017
Big Adventures... Moving Aboard!
I have been wanting to write about this for so long now but had to wait until we had told our family and friends about it,.. after a long time deliberating, discussing and imagining what life would be like we have decided to take the plunge and move aboard to teach. Come mid August we will be spreading our wings and starting a new family adventure in Abu Dhabi!
This all started well over a year ago but if I am honest it has always been something I have fancied doing but another one of those things that I was never sure if I was confident to do or not. Being with my husband has really helped with my confidence issues though and so has becoming a mother. So whilst I am still quite insecure in myself and my abilities I feel more empowered to make decisions that I/we feel are right for our own little family. So a couple of Christmases ago my friend Hollie popped up on my doorstep on Christmas Eve and took me completely by surprise as she was supposed to be in Qatar not at my door. She was teaching at an international school and wasn't due home that Christmas. It was fantastic to see her of course and I loved hearing her tales of travel but being almost 9 months pregnant and fit to burst I really didn't ever think I would be planning to do the same! However every visit from Hollie that followed sparked ideas in both my head and Sam's. Perhaps this was something we could do as a family after all?
So why now? Why haven't we already gone?
That's easy. Family. I am not blaming them at all but with Sam's mum suffering from Multiple Sclerosis and my mum becoming desperately ill with anorexia (she was hospitalized with it when my son was only 5 days old and has been in and out of hospital ever since but is more stable, thankfully) we just didn't see how we could possibly take their grandchildren such a long way from them.
I struggled with the guilt of wanting to move for so long and I know Sam was unsure too. I think he knew deep down that his family would be supportive and see the benefits of this adventure for our family but he was patient with me and understood that I just wasn't able to leave my mum the way she was. My guilt wouldn't let me. It has been a long, tough road in regards to my mum's mental illness and I would love to write more about it, when I am ready and when I have the right words. I would hate for anything I shared publicly to hurt or upset her.
So anyway, I digress... when January 2017 rolled around we decided we needed a change. Something NEEDED to change. We craved more time with the children and to be frank more money for the amount of hard work and hours we put into our jobs. We discussed it at length and decided it was now or never really. The children are growing so fast if we were going to do this we needed to do it this year before they both start primary school. From there we kept an eye of TES and other sites advertising teaching posts. We interviewed for two positions last month over Skype and were offered both and the rest, as they say is history!
We have both been offered positions in the same school and as Posey is already three she will start in their pre-school in September which is great as it means her schooling is paid for. Lochlann will go to a private nursery for the first year and then will join us at our school in the second year when he is three.
We choose Abu Dhabi after ALOT of research, it just seems more family orientated than some of the other places we looked at. It has lots of things to do and places to explore but also has some home comforts like Ikea! Lol. We have so much yet to sort out like documentation and what we are going to do with our own house and right now I can honestly say I still cannot believe we are going. I am nervous but that said I am incredibly excited. I know it'll bring tough times but I also know it'll bring us closer together as a family and will allow us so much more quality time together. Not to mention the year round sunshine and fabulous weather!
So now it's all about planning and preparation. So if anyone has any tips about moving aboard, travelling with young children and acclimatising to a very hot country then please let me know!
I am so proud of where we are already, as if I am actually moving aboard. - I am usually so plain and boring! Time to inject a little more colour and excitement into all our lives. And of course it'll give me lots of write about on here too!
Before I go I do just want to say thank you to all our family and friends just in case you are reading this... some of you were supportive from the start and for others it took a bit longer which was totally understandable. Now, in spite of your trepidation you are all being super lovely and supportive about it. Thank you so so much.
To Sam's mum and my own ... You are two of the strongest women I know and you inspire me to be the best mother I can be so although I was scared to leave you both... you are also two of the people that gave me the motivation to do this as you have both been so strong for your own children so for so many years and now it is time for me to do the same for mine!
And Hollie, if it wasn't for all your encouragement at each yearly visit this probably wouldn't be happening, so thank you to you too!
Right, I think I'll stop waffling now the littlest has had me up since 5 and this mama needs another cup of tea!
Thanks for stopping by,
Lots of love xx